How To Cope When You Must Live With a Soon-To-Be-Ex-Spouse

March 15, 2022 Family Law

Going through a divorce is never easy, but when circumstances require you to continue to live with your soon-to-be-ex-spouse, it can be a harrowing experience.  At Martin Law Firm, P.L., we have represented clients in this situation, and we have learned a thing or two about how it can best be handled.  Every situation is different so it is always best to discuss the circumstances of your case with your attorney. 

Establish Boundaries

One of the best steps you can take to make an emotionally taxing living situation better is to establish clear boundaries. Whenever possible, delineate who has access to certain rooms, and if some rooms must be shared (think the kitchen), then it may be necessary to schedule who has access at what time. Clear, established boundaries will give everyone peace of mind in knowing they have personal space that will not be infringed upon. 

Agree on Shared Expenses

Have an agreement on who will pay what of the household expenses, and keep a record of any household payments made by either party. Knowing what you are responsible for paying will help you budget and plan.

Avoid Conflicts

Avoid conflicts whenever possible. If you know that a certain action is likely to infuriate your estranged spouse, refrain from engaging in it if possible. This includes having new partners over to your shared residence.

Only Interact When Necessary

Do not interact with your soon-to-be-ex any more than is absolutely necessary or comfortable in your situation. By limiting the number of interactions you have, you can limit the number of negative encounters. 

Create A Shared Parenting Plan

If you and your soon-to-be-ex-spouse share children, living separately under the same roof can be difficult for everyone involved. It is best that there is a well-thought-out parenting plan in place that designates who will be doing what for the children. It is equally important that both parents have plenty of access to the children and maintain a healthy relationship with them. Finally, when there are children involved, all parties must treat one another with respect. 

Temporary Arrangement

Living together with your soon-to-be-ex-spouse should only be a temporary arrangement, not a long-term plan. So while it may be necessary for now, make plans to have a separate residence as soon as possible. 

Speak With a Family Law Attorney at Martin Law Firm, P.L.

If you are thinking about filing for divorce or your spouse has already filed for divorce, we are here to help. We are experienced Florida family law attorneys that assist our clients through their biggest transitions in life with as little stress as possible. We may be reached via our contact page